Hi -
It's odd how I decide who and when to write to. Especially since I don't know what you
know. About what, I don't know :}
But, here's what's been going on with me about you for a long time.
First, I love your movies... The Pelican Brief, Erin Brockovich, Pretty Woman.. Notting
Hill... the one with Hugh Grant. (who I'm also a big fan of.. ain't no sunshine...).
There's a song in that movie that always struck a chord with me.
Back when I was a DJ at KCRE AM/FM in Crescent City California (home of Pelican Bay
Prison, BTW, and Charles Manson, among others)... the summer it snowed due to
"woodpecker" which turned out to be (supposedly) a Russian weather wars weapon
similar to the United States equivalent called HAARP... they told me they were going
to let me have the AM morning show. I told them, great, so long as I don't have to
play country. The next day, they told me I was playing country. :} That's when I sort of
created a "radio station in a box". And KCRE AM 1310 Country.
The surprising thing was, though I had grown up around people who liked country (and so
did I), I really didn't know much about the culture and likes and dislikes of people who
liked country music.
I'd always likened myself to the character in Clint Eastwood's Honky Tonk Man, not to
mention Play Misty for me and others, or like James Taylor, who we both claimed to be like
Whispering Bill Anderson... But when I started playing country on the radio, I learned a
bunch of things.
I found out where many of my favorite old "folk-rock" artists went. Such as,
Michael Johnson, formerly of the Climax Blues Band... Bluer Than Blue... Dan Seals,
brother of Jim Seals of Seals & Crofts... I really love Randy Travis and Johnny Cash
(another story) Joel Sonnier, Moe Bandy...
Since I wrote the piece on the 
Sound
Track Of Your Life, I've been looking at all the old albums and 45's I have, recording
things I want to share with people, special songs, rare recordings that may never be
available again...
And, I laugh because I started to write a piece called "Forgiveness" for "For
the Love of the World"... and ended up attacking Barack Obama :} For good
reason, I might add...
And all that actually brings me back to you... and forgiveness, and love... hard how
hard it is to forgive even when you love someone so much... It's like me and James
Taylor.. never met the man in person... but he's been a brother, a father, a spiritual
mentor.. and a voyeur... so I don't know what to believe except to ask people for the
truth, and one day I'll get it.
But I'm not into rumors, or "coded messages", or such... gossip...
Please understand, I'm not asking you to tell me anything. I'm asking you to tell
yourself something and I'm not sure why it's important to you.
What I want to say is that, in that period of being a country dj at KCRE, I found a
musical style I really liked and one where I beleived I fit in... and it was this song,
played at this time period in your life, that I realized that if there was any songwriter
and singer I felt a special feeling and attachment to, it was Keith Whitley. All the way
down to the way he played piano.
The song is this 
When You Say Nothing At All. I wonder why this song is so
special to you. But, somehow, I know there's some atonement necessary and reconciliation
available to us both in you considering it and me talking about it. And, yeah, I know a
bit about what happened. I'm sure it was very difficult. And I hope you don't think I'm
out of line.
Which is why it seems I need to tell you why this song is so special to me. One of my
favorites. Let's just say we all have unrequieted loves in our lives.
To me, this song represents the perfect relationship I could have with a woman. The
idea that you could spend time with someone, maybe not even know they're there except that
every once in a while, you look up and see them, and they see you, and maybe you
smile at each other... or you come up to them in a quiet moment and touch them just to let
them know you're there and thinking about them...
Now, it's not like living in two separate worlds... it's like living in multiple worlds
together, sharing everything and only what you want to... allowing for the full
realization of the unique and precious being you share your life with. For me, it's
about companionship, more than the rush of love that occurs upon the discovery of someone
with whom you can speak freely and openly about anything and everything, without the need
to lie or hide. It's about respecting and loving someone so much that the most important
you could wish for them is to be happy, with or without you.
And having a whole lot of fun when it's time for fun... which could be at any moment.
And, like Sting says... he provides the distinction and wisdom and beauty for me and, I
suppose many other people with his song... When you love somebody, Set Them Free... Sting. Empower them.
When I think of the Golden Rule as it applies to being, all the beings in the Cosmos of
the Universe, I have to believe that all of us need to grapple with the idea that there is
no such thing as "control", and that the greatest love, like the liberty
promised in the book of John, the freedom, free will, the freedom to choose, with all
things coming from love... and that the only control we have as individuals is to learn
the discipline of empowering one another.
I don't know if this provides you with anything or not, but I hope it does. And thank
you for allowing me to share a special person with you.
Love and blessings,
Chuck
PS: And now, in my 45's this morning, is this other song
"I
Wonder Do You Think of Me?"
Congratulations on your child! Talk about blessings. :}
PSS: I actually prepared an entire additional page to share some feelings with you, but
thought it might be too embarassing for someone else. So I thought I'd leave you with
this
song instead. Don Henley - The Heart of the Matter
